PMS-ing

PMS- pre-menstrual sindrom, @ lebih dikenali angin perempuan sebelom dan sewaktu period. secara jujurnya, bagi aku perkara ni normal untuk sesetengah wanita. kengkadang de yg mengalami fizikal pain, dan de yang mengalami mental pain. fizikal pain contohnya, sakit perut, paha, kepala dan kengkadang de yang sakit seluruh badan. mental pain contohnya, emosi, marah, sedih, dan bermacam2 lagi perangai yang tak boleh di interpretasi kn.

kebesean, bile perempuan mengalami PMS, mereka perlukan perhatian dan sokongan dari orang yang tersayang. kengkadang bile mereka terlepas cakap tentang sesuatu yang melukakan hati si pendengar, aku tak rse perempuan tu meluahkan nya secara sengaja. seperti aku.

kawan2 aku sume da tau cam ne aku ni kalo period. dan sume faham keadaan aku, dan sume tak amik hati kalo aku terlepas cakap pape. tetapi de orang baru dlm idup aku tak leh trime keadaan aku. mintak maaf la..aku cakap awal2, aku memang cam ni. bukan aku mintak, tapi ini yang aku dapat. bukan aku tak perna cuba kawal, malah aku sentiase kawal diri aku, bile PMS-ing. kalo tak kawal, aku akan marah orang setiap mase, sampai blood pressure aku naek mendadak.

aku da try untuk fahami diri kau, seadanya, lebih dari sesape yang perna bersama kau sebelum ni. dan sekarang tiba masanya untuk kau fahami diri aku, seadanya. kalo kau tak leh trime dan faham sape aku, sayang skali, kerana kau bukan untukku.

bagi yang tak kenal aku, ini adalah aku. aku tahu de orang hidup lebih ok dr aku, dan de yg lebih malang dr aku. dan aku tak menyalahkan sesape ngan pe yg aku de sekarang ni. cume mintak, org memahami diri aku, sebab aku boleh cube memahami orang laen. peliknya, susah bagi orang len nak fahami diri aku.

kalo kau tak boleh berubah untuk aku, untuk hubungan ni, jadi kite tak kan ke mana. ingat, jangan selalu mementingkan diri sendiri, setiap hari dan setiap mase. bila tiba mase nya, kau mahu menjalinkan hubungan dengan orang lain, kau perlu untuk mengenali apa itu toleransi. tanpa toleransi yang baek, sesebuah hubungan tak akan kekal selamanya. apa yang pernah terjadi dahulu, akan kekal terjadi kembali berulang lagi sampai bila-bila, kalo kau tak mengubah pemikiran dan sikap kau.

Home Sweet Home.

da lama aku x update blog aku. bukan aku x nak update, tapi aku x tau nak tulis pe. funny, is it? waktu blaja banyak bende lak aku nak post, @ share kat blog aku ni walaupon aku kekurangan mase, tapi kat umah aku de banyak mse tapi x de modal. actually, de modal, tapi aku x de ati untuk post pape.

i guess mungkin sebab aku kat umah, dan segala-galanya kelihatan secure, lalu aku x de banyak bende bermain-main di kepala aku. aku suke untuk menulis bile aku serabut, supaya aku leh kosongkan kepala aku. kengkadang kat umah ni, bile aku terpakse untuk menulis, aku akan bukak @ induce sesuatu yang leh wat otak aku berfikir, for an example bukak lagu @ pon movie walaupon aku x tengok sangat movie tu. just untuk wat otak aku serabut.

everything is just fine, except few days ago, my grandfather is sick. he was too old. 85 years old. he is soo skinny. nampak cam mayat hidup. yang g tengok die just aku, adek aku dan ayah aku. mak aku x g tengok die. instead, die g bercerita ngan grandmother kitorng kat living room. i guess die agaka takot kot untuk melihat orang-orang yang sedang sakit. i mean, die sendiri de illness die sendiri.


dan pe yang mengejutkan aku adalah, sejak ari aku berjumpe ngan atok aku tu, kelopak bawah mata kiri aku asek2 bergerak2. aku x tau nape, dan x cakap aku x percaya pada superstitious, tapi kalo da sampai 4 hari bergerak2, that is not a superstitious issue, that's medical issue. maybe de sebab nye. mungkin aku letih, mungkin aku stress dan cam2 lagi kemungkinan yang aku bace kat internet. malam tadi aku tido pkol 12, dan bangun pkol 11 pagi, mata ni bergerak2 gak. aku duk kat umah, x de keje, tgk tv, gembire ngan kuceng2 aku. x de reason untuk aku stress. so, aku pon buntu nape ngan bende ni. at last, aku pon malas da nak fikir. adakah ianya mengganggu? ya, menganggu penglihatan aku. tu pasal aku risau. tapi aku x tau pe yg patut aku lakukan.

Sex Crimes Part 2: Rape (Sexual Assault)

Rape is any illegal sexual contact that involves forcing a person without their consent or inflicting such contact with someone who is unable to give consent due to age or physical or mental capabilities.

Rape is a violent crime using sex as a weapon—rape is used to assert one’s domination over another. It is not committed to satisfy a sexual urge.

Rape is about power, not sex. A rapist uses actual force or violence — or the threat of it — to take control over another human being.

Some rapists use drugs to take away a person's ability to fight back. Rape is a crime, whether the person committing it is a stranger, a date, an acquaintance, or a family member. No matter how it happened, rape is frightening and traumatizing. People who have been raped need care, comfort, and a way to heal.

There are several types of rape, generally categorized by reference to the situation in which it occurs, the sex or characteristics of the victim, and/or the sex or characteristics of the perpetrator. Different types of rape include but are not limited to:

• date rape,
• gang rape,
• marital rape or spousal rape, incestual rape,
• child sexual abuse,
• prison rape,
• acquaintance rape,
• war rape
• statutory rape.

Signs and symptoms of someone who has been sexually assaulted or raped tend to include a variety of emotional, behavioral, social, and work-related problems.



Facts about rape in Malaysia:

• 80% of all rape victims know their attackers for example, relatives, friends, partners.
• Approximately 70% of rapes happen in safe places like at home, at school, a friend’s house.
• Only 1 in every 10 rapes are reported; rape is one of the most under-reported crimes in the world.
• In 2003, 1,479 police reports were lodged by rape victims. The figure doubled to 3,098 in 2007.
• Malaysian law narrowly defines rape as the penetration of the penis into the vagina of a woman without her consent.
  
• According to DSP Zaiton Che Lah; head of the Sexual Crimes Unit under the Sexual Crimes and Children Investigation Division (D11), about 50% of the total number of rape cases each year involve victims aged 16 and below.
• Sex with or without the consent of a girl below the age of 16 is considered statutory rape. The punishment for rape is prescribed under Section 376 of the Penal Code.
  
• Marital rape is not criminalized in Malaysia . Under the law, a husband can only be charged with causing hurt or fear of death, to his wife or any other person in order to have sexual intercourse with her (Penal Code, Section 375A).

Effects of Rape:

• Victims of rape can be severely traumatized by the assault

• may have difficulty functioning due to the assault

• disruption of concentration, sleeping patterns and eating habits, for example may feel jumpy or be on edge

• After being raped, it is common for the victim to experience acute stress disorder, including symptoms similar to those of post traumatic stress disorder, such as intense, sometimes unpredictable emotions, and they may find it hard to deal with their memories of the event

• In the months period, these problems may be severe and upsetting, may prevent the victim from revealing their ordeal to friends or family, or seeking police or medical assistance.
  

• Additional symptoms of Acute Stress Disorder include:

1. depersonalization or dissociation (feeling numb and detached, like being in a daze or a dream, or feeling that the world is strange and unreal) difficulty remembering important parts of the assault
2. reliving the assault through repeated thoughts, memories, or nightmares
   
3. avoidance of things, places, thoughts, and/or feelings that remind the victim of the assault anxiety or increased alertness (difficulty sleeping, concentrating, etc.)
4. avoidance of social life or place of rape

What should I do if I had been rape?

Take care of yourself in the best way for you. For some people, that means reporting the crime immediately and fighting to see the rapist brought to justice. For others it means seeking medical or emotional care without reporting the rape as a crime. Every person is different.

There are three things that everyone who has been raped should do, though:

1. Know that the rape wasn't your fault.
2. Seek medical care.
3. Deal with your feelings.

Please remember:

Whatever happened, it wasn't your fault. No one has the right to have sex with you against your will. The blame for a rape lies solely with the rapist.

Sometimes a rapist will try to exert even more power by making the person who's been raped feel like it was actually his or her fault. A rapist may say stuff like, "You asked for it" or "You wanted it." This is just another way for the rapist to take control. The truth is that what a person wears, what a person says, or how a person acts is never a justification for rape.

Most people who are raped know their rapists. That can sometimes lead the person who's been raped to try to protect the perpetrator. Make protecting yourself your priority. Don't worry about protecting the person who raped you.

If you want to report the crime to the police, do so. Reporting a rape may help protect others from that person — and may help you feel a little less like you were a victim.

But making a report to the police may be difficult for some people. If you don't feel comfortable reporting it, you don't have to. You may prefer to get advice about what to do from an experienced adult who can be sympathetic to you. Do whatever helps you to feel safe and heal without blaming yourself.

credit to:

http://www.medicinenet.com/rape_sexual_assault/article.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape
http://kidshealth.org/teen/safety/safebasics/rape_what_to_do.html#
http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?sec=nation&file=/2010/8/1/nation/6775682